It comes as little surprise to learn that more and more people have been known to worry in recent times but becoming a ‘warrior’ and not a ‘worrier’ is of paramount importance to your growth, mental health, and in reaching your life objectives.
You need to have strength and courage when faced with life's challenges rather than giving in to fear and anxiety, but one of the greatest challenges that most people face in life is the battle within themselves. Self-doubt, lack of self-esteem, worry, and anxiety all come from a worrier mindset, but you need to make sure that it’s managed and controlled.
Like most major life changes, shifting from being a worrier to a warrior requires a change in perspective, thinking, mindset, and action, and it’s not something that occurs over a short period of time. When a worry comes up for most people, they tend to dwell on the problem or the thought of it, and it can stay in their minds for some time. It affects them mentally with negative vibes, their health can become impacted, and their day can be ruined by an unnecessary amount of worry.
Thinking about things that could go wrong can unintentionally divert all the energy and passion that you would be using for better things in life, where you could be channeling them in a much more positive and productive way. Make no mistake, being a worrier can have major implications with your personal wellbeing. It doesn’t matter how much you worry, whether it be over a small or big matter to you, you’re not suddenly going to make the issue any better, only action will do that, but worry will not.
Worry stems from our mind and can be very toxic once it takes hold. As humans, we will worry over just about everything in life if we let ourselves. It is common to worry about the future and what may happen to us, our loved ones, our possessions, our financials, and our careers. Depending on the extent we allow ourselves to worry, we may even worry about the country we live in or even the world.
Worrying regarding the aforementioned things can imply that you, on a conscious or subconscious level, are aware of just how precious those things are and how easily they can be taken away. However, life and everything that comes along with it is finite and no amount of worrying will ever change that.
Worry can be very toxic once it takes hold. It is up to you to recognize these thoughts and stop them before they truly take root in your mind.
It is within our nature to worry over decisions we have to make no matter how big or small, but you must constantly fight that urge to worry. If you let that worry develop into anxiety that grows inside you, then everything will seem like truly life altering decisions that you will have to mull over for weeks at a time without making any progress towards the end decision. We get anxious when making decisions because we don’t want to deal with the consequences of making a mistake.
This explains one of the reasons why people stay in a comfort zone and decide against that risk taking of stepping out of it. The more you address stressful situations, the more you make difficult decisions, the easier it will become. By stepping out of that comfort zone you are giving yourself a chance to change that worrier mentality and take on a warrior mindset, because you’re challenging yourself and attacking the objectives that you’ve set, and which are in front of you.
To end worrying, you need to learn how to become a warrior. No, this does not mean that you need to sign up at the local Krav Maga gym and start rolling around on the mat, it means that you need to fight against your psychological attachments and intellectual misconceptions that make you worry. By learning to switch off and erase that worrier mindset takes training and discipline, but when you learn that then you’ll be more productive and happier within yourself, worry won’t be controlling you, you will be controlling it.
I have no doubt that my parents worried about me during my military career, that is an instinct for any parent whose son or daughter is in a line of work where danger may often present itself. However, and for those who it may currently apply to, you should remember that your son, daughter, brother, or sister, willingly joined the military because it is what they wanted to do. They found their passion and purpose, stepped out of their comfort zone, gained strength of mind, aligned their focus and are working to their own military mindset.
It may be little comfort to you, but they are pursuing their goals and objectives, and you can bet your life that when you speak to them during a deployment, they will sense that worry from within you. All you are doing in such a scenario is working yourself up, putting bad thoughts into your mind and then dwelling on them which will impact your day-to-day life, it’s an unnecessary act of worry.
What do you think it will do to those you are worrying about if they sense it though?
Their focus may not be as aligned as they need it to be, they’ll be distracted and in turn, they’ll be worrying about you. For those in the military, especially when deployed, the last thing they need are trigger points that take their focus from their mission. It must be said however that it is normal for us to worry about loved ones, but we simply can’t allow our minds to be consumed with negative thoughts, thoughts that bring upon us sleepless nights, anxiety, ill health, and an uneasy feeling within ourselves.
In recent years, the term ‘warrior mindset’ may have been heard or even used by you, without you having any clear understanding of what it means. It really is a combination of things, things that project strength and control, discipline, and resilience, and having the ability to overcome adversity. Often in life, people are encouraged to maintain their mental focus and to use a ‘warrior mindset,’ it’s just taken for granted that everyone believes it to mean ‘be strong’.
Within the modern military and law enforcement communities, it is often assumed that mental toughness will magically generate, or automatically result from tough physical and tactical training. This is not always true; in fact, it usually isn’t true at all, but mental toughness skills can be trained directly. To develop the true warrior mindset, it is imperative that you work to develop your own mental training program. You must be open to learning and be prepared to eliminate mental roadblocks, which can of course be challenging to accept.
You must, in a sense, break yourself down and rebuild yourself stronger just like military bootcamps do when new recruits enter the military, where they are molded into professional soldiers. I touched on this in the ‘strength of mind’ chapter, using strategies that will help you to gain that mental strength, well, the same principles apply in developing yourself as a warrior. If you want to win in war, you must be a warrior. If you want to win in business, you must be a warrior. If you want to grow and attack life, you must be a warrior.
We are all capable of adopting a warrior mindset, irrelevant of age, background, or life circumstance, it’s just a question of commitment, discipline, and an aligned focus on finding that warrior spirit. Every single one of has that within us.
If you have a job that you love doing, but you suddenly feel as though your manager is a bit off with you, then ask him or her, be a warrior and address it, not confront it. By doing the latter you’ll be letting your passion speak for you instead of your mind and you could come across as being aggressive or paranoid. Instead, take on a warrior mindset, have confidence to talk through it with them in a calm and collective manner, have that strength of mind to address the issue that you have going on up there. If something is wrong, then you’re dealing with it in an appropriate way rather than dwelling on it.
Likewise, you may have heard of someone becoming ill and attacking the problem that has come upon on them, the words ‘warrior mindset’ or ‘warrior spirit’ can come to mind as they face their challenge and say to themselves “right, let’s have it”. It may have applied to you or someone close to you, and although it may not cure the illness, it sure as hell does so much for the mind to have that positive fight, attitude, and spirit.
Read more in my book 'The Fortitude Warrior' at https://www.glenburton.com/the-fortitude-warrior
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